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This one time 3 years ago I thought parenting was so easy. I had a 2yo who slept the night at 8 weeks, she ate beet popsicles and loved any food you exposed her to, she traveled well, could sit quietly at most restaurants, walked at 10 months old, and stopped nursing easily at 2. I remember thinking that Chris and I were such wonderful parents and that gentle, attachment parenting was not only working, but easy.
And then my son was born.
I'm not exaggerating when I say that my husband and I haven't slept the night in more than a few consecutive days in 2.5 years. It takes its toll on your health, your sanity, your job, your parenting and especially with your relationships with other people (because when you've slept for 4 hours zero effs are given about yourself or others most days).
I'm not sure why I wanted to share this, because my brain doesn't function on nights when Ben has trouble sleeping. I guess just as I shout out to the parents of kids who don't sleep. I see you and those black circles. I understand you're doing the best you can. You've consulted every book and every sleep theory. You've talk to local sleep specialists and despite all of the suggestions, you've tried essential oils, probiotics, cutting out juice, adding juice, adding pillows, taking away pillows...
And your kid still doesn't effing sleep.
Most of us know a lot about traditional birth, right? You hire the ob/gyn, you show up at the hospital, you have your baby, you stay for a few days, then go home.
But what if you could try something different? What if you hired someone who had time to talk to you for 45 minutes for each appointment. What if you were able to be home with your baby within hours of birth? What if you didn't even have to leave your home?
There are SO many awesome options for low-risk moms in WNY. A hospital is one of them, but do you know the others?
Check out our local listing of midwives today:
The following is from Lindsay Palmisano, a mother of two home birth babies in Buffalo. Lindsay works for U.S. Customs and Border Patrol in addition to being a talented artist. You can follow her art at her facebook page: An Art State of Mind. She currently enjoys doing pregnancy belly paintings, conducting paint nights, commissioned portraits, and would love to one day write a few natural-focused children's books. Thanks for sharing your story, Lindsay.
My son was born in 2014 and that was my first beautiful water homebirth. Taylor was born july 30, 2017 in the same style. I woke up at 5am with cramping that didn't go away. I sat on a yoga ball and my husband, derrek, called our doula and midwife. By 5:30 the surges were increasing. I labored mostly standing in the kitchen leaning on the counter. Derrek filled the birth pool and the midwife assistant arrived at 7am. Labor was strong. I had beck and Tori Amos playing on my iPod. By 7:40 my doula and midwife arrived. It was a warm, sunny summer morning so we had the french doors open to our yard/woods and baby deer emerged to paid us a visit. I got into the pool by 7:45 and my water was leaking. I was only comfortable on my knees leaning on the pool wall. I transitioned, vomiting the watermelon that they were all force feeding me. My labor was intense with little rest but quite efficient. By 8:05 i was pushed her out in 2 pushes. She was 8 pounds, 19 inches and had a full head of dark hair and long finger nails. We didn't know the sex, but intuitively we knew it was our girl Taylor Jane...a name we picked out early in our pregnancy. Our birth team was amazing and supportive and our birth was something like a fairy tale.
Watch Lindsay's Homebirth.
Interested in learning more about birthing at home? Contact on of our local practitioners who can support you. There are so many awesome birth options in WNY.
I stopped nursing my son this past October. After 2 babies and 6 years, I was ready to be done. I didn't pay attention that last time we nursed. I didn't pay attention to the way he played with my hair or the way he may have hung his long preschooler leg over my shoulder. I don't remember what that reliable oxytocin felt like or if either of us even knew that it would be the last time. But it was.
When I read Sally Salzer's post that she shared in our local Holistic Parenting Network of Buffalo I was moved to tears. This shit is hard. Motherhood is hard. Here's her story.
Last night I nursed my baby for the last time. She will be 4 in April.
I have made this post countless times. When she was 4 months old and I went back to work full time, when she was 10 months old and my supply had suddenly disappeared (thank you to all of our milk donors!) and now at almost 4 years old. So many times I struggled and wanted to give up, but because of the support of other women and my passion for nourishing my baby with the body I am so grateful to have, I made it to 4 years.
This was never a goal of mine. I never saw myself breastfeeding a nearly 4 year old, let alone even having a baby in the first place but this is what motherhood is. It’s a journey, and you learn and grow more than you could ever imagine. You do things you never thought you would do, or were even capable of doing. You change. And that is such a beautiful thing.
This journey has been hard, I won’t lie, but it has also been so incredibly beautiful. The connection I have with my daughter is unbreakable. The fact that myself and many other women kept her alive for so long is nothing short of amazing.
I suffered terribly from postpartum anxiety for the first 15 months of her life and I never would have made it through any of that without the support of other women going through the same. I would have never made it this far with breastfeeding without all of the love, milk donations and friendships that I have been so blessed with.
I didn’t plan on saying anything about this. She actually hasn’t nursed in probably 2 weeks and I was wondering if I would even remember our last time, but last night the moment was perfect and she understood and we were both ready.
So to the mama’s out there struggling, you’re not alone. Reach out for help if you need it. Don’t do it alone. It truly does take a village. And if you followed me at all over the last 4 years you know that this is a true accomplishment, and I am so proud.
This picture is our first attempt at latching just seconds after she was born.
Follow Sally's Journey in healthy living and motherhood on instagram and check out her closed facebook group Women's Empowerment Society.
SNOWDAY! Yay! More like yay for my kids and husband who's working from home. For me it's, "Oh SNAP, Mama just lost her 2.5 free hours to work on fun stuff for Welcome Mama!"
Be not afraid. I'm throwing a short list of important events for your weekend. As always, if you'd like an event mentioned or listed all you have to do is message me on facebook, instagram, or at firstname.lastname@example.org. There's no cost, no contract, no bullshit: just your event shared and listed because this site is ultimately about YOU and sharing resources for YOU.
So here we go:
WNY MoMs Spring 2018 Sale
Kids stuff and so much more! In addition to over 40 sale tables with lots of great toys, clothes and baby items, we have many crafters, vendors, a basket raffle, bake sale, and kids play area!
Everyone is welcome!! Admission is $2 per person (kids are free).
Mama Bear Support Group
A group for moms who want to connect, learn and grow.
Recognize and come to terms with how you’re feeling
Boundaries and realistic expectations for parenting
Self-care and relaxation
Restore negative self-defeating thoughts
Identify who you are (in addition to being a mom)
Buffalo Arts Movement Art Club for 5&6 year olds.
Calling all pint sized Picassos! You are invited to join our Art Club! Come and make new friends while experiencing a hands-on, developmentally appropriate visual arts exploration! Each Club day will be a new adventure in nurturing and encouraging personal creativity and confidence for all 5 & 6 year old children! No long term commitment required! Pay by the Club day- only $13 per child. Parents are welcomed to stay or take an hour off for yourself! Give Art Club a try and watch your budding artist create masterpieces and learn something new every step of the way!
Also! Please don't forget to save the date for our upcoming summer events in WNY. You're not going to want to miss them!
Save the Date for:
Climb Out of the Darkness Walk for Postpartum Mental Health
4th Trimester Bodies Project
Hi. I'm Lindsay. Daughter, sister, wife, mother and collector of useless (and useful) information.