I'm trying to figure out the gentle parenting response to what just happened. A couple times a week my 3 yo and I grab Tim Horton's cookies before picking up my 5 yo from school.
(The pick up process has been a semi-nightmare and pretty stressful because it happens around 3pm, right when my 3 yo usually grabs a nap, if I'm lucky. When he doesn't get a nap I have to babywear his 40 pound fanny the quarter mile walk to the school so he doesn't run into traffic and die in the parking lot.)
My 5 yo is still adjusting to kindergarten and is absolutely an exhausted, grumpy mess when I pick her up. I'd LOVE for her to ride the bus, but I think her hour long bus ride is ridiculous when we live a literal block from the school. Regardless, the past few times I've purchased cookies she's lost her mind over me choosing the WRONG type of cookie. The 3 yo then loses his mind TOO, realizing that he already ate HIS cookie and(wtf!) wants his SISTER'S! All Hell then breaks loose (this has seriously happened twice) until my 5 yo hands half of her cookie to her brother to appease him. This is when I predictably lose it because I'm repeatedly trying to convince everyone in our house that we can't let the 3 year old run EVERYTHING. My 5 yo then screams bloody murder because I'm yelling at her for, get this, SHARING?
So my question is: how many cookies should I buy for myself next time, because I think a bottle of Bully Hill table white would go well with the m&m cookies. 🤣😂😀🤔🤔😜
I have a cute, supportive, funny, and intelligent husband who's a really great dad and, most days, a really wonderful partner who compliments my kind of crazy with his own version. But when I was in my early 20's I moved to Buffalo alone, rented a sweet one bedroom with hardwood floors in Elmwood Village and dated this guy twice my age. I thought it was awesome being with someone so worldly and wise, things I just wasn't at 24. He was a perfect bookend to my Good Girl Rebellion. He was divorced, had a vast vocabulary, impeccable taste in music and really, really liked me: what could possibly go wrong!?
Lots. Lots went wrong, including me grappling with some pretty intense, soul crushing depression that led me to some pretty dark days when he turned out to be just as imperfect as I was. But what my time with him left me with was this song that popped into my head this morning when I saw that Graham Nash was performing at Babeville next week. He shared it with me because he understood the darkness I was feeling, despite helping to contribute to some of it. I think he saw me at the "Wounded Bird" and I kind of was.
I want to share the song with you today, because I know more than a few moms out there who are really struggling. I know some of them don't want to talk about it. I know some of them have a great support network, but still feel alone. I know some of them aren't even sure what they can do to feel better. I've got to tell you something that I've witnessed while volunteering for the WNY PMAD Task force and the Postpartum Resource Center of NY: you're not alone. You can get better with help.
I've watched you go through changes
That no man should face alone
If things are looking grim, don't you fucking give up. Come here find and what you're looking for. Hell! Message ME or send me a note on facebook if you need some direction! I'm not a licensed counselor, trained in mindful meditation, nor a religious leader, but I know enough people to help you find your own path to healing. I'm slowly learning that the healing process can take many forms. It's up to you to find what's best for you. But you just have to find it. You just have to find it. Start searching today.
Postpartum Resource Center of WNY
There are so many awesome things going on in the coming weeks. Don't let this 85 degree weather fool you. The leaves were already falling from the trees out at Evangola State Park Yesterday and the Earth is offering up pumpkins and squash for the harvest. There's even an abundance of pumpkin spice at local coffee shops for you basic bitches! Phew. I love this time of year.
This list reflects our crunchy code, love of community events, support for holistic leaning activities....and everything I'm trying to check out this weekend! Let me know if you'd like your event listed here.
Resistance Dance Party
Fall Brunch for Bumps
WNY MoM Sale
Thistle Creek Alpaca Farm Open House
A Thin Crescent Moon and Saturn
Don't miss the 2017 Fall Brunch for Bumps one week from today. Tickets are still available.
Join your host Shannon Johns, of Calming Nature Doula Services for a lovely Brunch Buffet on Sunday, September 24th, 2017 at the Webb Room at Pearl Street located in Downtown Buffalo.
Several presentations will be given by local Birth Professionals where expectant parents and soon to be expectant parents will learn what their options are in relation to pregnancy, childbirth, the postpartum period and beyond.
Every Mama will also receive a gift bag filled with goodies as well as chances to win door and raffle prizes. Don't miss it! :)
Follow your host, Shannon Johns of Calming Nature Doula Services here.
I'm honored to be representing WNY PMAD task force and Postpartum Resource Center of New York. Hope to see you there.!
Hi. I'm Lindsay. Daughter, sister, wife, mother and collector of useless (and useful) information.