My son slept the full night for three nights in a row. I think my husband and I got SEVEN hours of sleep for the first time in months last night. MONTHS! It's going to take the 3 of us a while to get back into a restful pattern where we can finally feel good, but we'll get there!
It has not been an easy journey. The advice from other families has been endless and we’ve tried almost all: heavy blankets, lavender, diffusers with really expensive oils, nap, no nap, early to bed, late to bed, supplements, more carbs, less carbs, more iron, more protein, talked to our not-very-helpful previous pediatrician, sleep specialists (consulted with TWO!). Of all the suggestions, the most important came from other moms who talked about waiting it out and mindfulness.
Shifting our mindset to a place of compassion for our kid has helped a lot. I’m not going to say that it made it easier, but it made it more bearable. And the cool part of waiting this out? Our kiddo is finally at an age where we can talk about what's happening in his body and what's causing him to feel scared. For him, it's nightmares and a serious fear of the dark. When he brings up being scared, we talk about how safe and special our house is, how there's so much love, how his big sister (who's seriously NEVER been afraid of the dark) is right there in the room with him, just in case....and that we're just a few steps away from his room if he needs us later in the night.
Every morning that he wakes when the sun rises we throw an effing parade of gratitude and express to him how awesome it is that he was able to sleep the night through and help his body get well rested. Yesterday he reminded me that I owed him money for sleeping. Several months ago, I was feeling so frustrated by the sleep deprivation that I bribed him and told him that I would give him 10 bucks if he stayed in his bed. Turns out he remembered that bribe.... :)
Please, Goddess/Sweet Baby Jesus/Buddha/whatever deity can assist here: keep this trend going and we'll be Golden.
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Hi. I'm Lindsay. Daughter, sister, wife, mother and collector of useless (and useful) information.